Tuesday, April 1, 2008


So many wonderful things to share today as it is the first of the month. I have some DT projects to share from Treasured Scrapbooking, and I incorporated one of my layouts for the Dreamgirls Challenge blog. You have got to check out the first challenge and what the ladies have done with it.

Don't forget that Treasured Scrapbooking is the place to be this month as we are celebrating Leslie's first year as owner. Woo Hoo so if you've never been there come on over and introduce yourself.

Oh and the journaling to my journey layout is a poem that describes what it is like to have a child with disabilities. Here it is.

"Welcome to Holland"

By Emily Perl Kingsley, 1987. All rights reserved.

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away...because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. But...if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.


Rachel Whetzel said...

LOVE your page about your son!! What an amazing illustration!!

Jennie said...

Congratulations on the new blog, Dolores!! (a little late, sorry) and that layout is amazing - well, probably because YOU are amazing. Big hugs :)

Brandy said...

I've read that poem before in a similar context. I think it is a great way of looking at all the little things that get thrown our way, and I commend you for all the strength, love and patience I know you've had all these years.

Diana said...

Beautiful, just beautiful! The poem you used and the layouts. It brought tears to my eyes. You are a remarkable woman.

Gina (frazzledmom) said...

Dolores, you are a woman of unbelievable strength. You have dealt with so much in your life, and you always bounce back. Your LO is amazing - and I love how you used that Holland poem. Brilliant.

ellen said...

wow, that is pretty amazing. you are an amazing person!

Kasi said...

I love that poem about Holland, I've used it on LO's of my son (he's autistic) Great LO's!